Updated: Jun 10
I realized today that all of us deal with rejection. I mean, in the back of my head I knew that, but when you don't hear other people talk about it often, sometimes you forget you are not alone with those struggles.
A lot of the time, rejection can be really tough and extremely crippling. When you feel that pain from rejection, here are 3 things you can use to help you survive it:
1. Remember the reason why you started in the first place
Reignite your purpose.
2. Take a nap, go for a walk, get some ice cream
Relax! Don't push yourself to burnout. Everything is going to be okay. Let yourself breathe for a moment and give yourself an opportunity to recharge.
3. Ask yourself: What is this rejection saying to me?
Give it a voice and ask what it is saying to you.
For example: "I am not worthy, I am not enough," etc.
These 3 things, in retrospect, helped Alex overcome the rejection that crippled him from both his first year college experience as well as from working on The Third Door. If they can work for him, they can work for you, give them a try!
Best Question #1
What can you do when the rejection is out of your control?
If you keep getting bullshit no's, where you don't even get a thoughtful response, do not take it personally. These types of rejections come from someone else's lack of capacity to explain a very complicated situation. Put yourself in their shoes instead and learn from others who are in a similar position as them.
Best Question #2
What can you do if you get rejected from someone who used to be your mentor?
This is a tough one that you will have to work through. Take 3 deep breaths, give a voice to the rejection, and ask what it is saying about you. Now think back to where that relates to your childhood. Going to therapy is a great way to understand and piece together all the different elements behind why you feel so rejected.
If there's anything I have learned from facing my fair share of rejection, it's that it always makes you stronger. These experiences are what create the incredibly unique person that you are. God wouldn't give you a challenge he thought you couldn't handle. Keep showing up, rain, hell, or shine!
Wondering how to support others going through rejection? Wait until they ask for your support. Sometimes people need to walk their own path.
This post is in relation to Alex Banayan's Third Door Mentor Sessions.
Tomorrow's Topic: Dealing with Failure