Updated: 4 days ago
When you stop letting fear run your life, you may find that life gets a lot more awesome. I know I sure did.
What’s the scariest thing you’ve ever done? For me, it was when I traveled solo to the island of Martinique for Thanksgiving of 2017. Not having done a traditional Thanksgiving dinner for a few years, I wanted to take advantage of that time off to travel. My friends and I began planning a beach trip, but when schedules clashed, the idea faded.
I still wanted to go, but ruled it out pretty quickly because that meant going alone. I had never traveled anywhere out of the country alone before. Was that even possible. . . or allowed?
A second later, I stopped and asked myself, wait a minute, why couldn't I go alone? The only reason I could think of was because I was too scared.
My fears were not a legitimate reason to not do something I wanted to do.
As soon as I realized that if I didn't go, I would be letting my fear run my life, I booked my ticket. I was going to Martinique.
I was no longer the insecure, shy teenager that I used to be. In middle and high school, whenever I was scared of something, I wouldn't do it. I missed out on a lot of teenage fun because I was too scared to put myself out there.
When I went to college, I finally realized that I had been the one keeping myself from meeting new people, trying new things, and going on awesome adventures.
I got tired of living like that and decided to leave that mindset behind. Something Tony Robbins, a motivational speaker and coach, once said really stuck with me, "change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing."
The pain from my unhealthy relationship with fear had become way worse than actually facing my fears. My life had become so miserable that if I wanted to accomplish my goals, I had no other option than to break up with my fear.
From that moment on, I decided that my fear would no longer tell me what I could and couldn't do.
So there I was, in Martinique, a country where people don't speak English, in a house with no WiFi, by myself. Yet, it turned out to be the best week ever.
My Airbnb hosts were so kind and treated me like family. I ate good food, went to the beach, explored the city, and even read an entire Tim Ferriss book.
It was scary as hell, but even more exhilarating. I proved to myself that I was capable of way more than I thought I was. That one trip made it possible for me to travel more by myself and even move abroad the next year.
I learned that each time you push yourself, you will discover a whole new world of possibilities. In my experience, every time I do something that terrifies me, I either have an amazing time, or I learn something incredibly valuable. Either way, you won't lose from challenging yourself.
If that could be true for you too, I wonder, what do you think you are missing out on now because of your fear?
How would your life change if you completely broke up with fear?
If you've already broken up with fear, I want to hear your story! Your insight could be exactly what someone needs to take that next step out of their comfort zone.
What's the scariest thing you've ever done and how did it improve you as a person?
Let us know in the comments below. :)