Self-judgment and external criticism are two inevitable factors that you will run into on your entrepreneurial journey. Here is a checklist of 5 things you can do if they are getting too overwhelming.
1. Be On Offense, not Defense
Actively seek out feedback from specific people
Find believable people, ones who have a good track record with their advice
Ask these people with high believability to not sugarcoat their feedback, so that you get the real truth
2. Tell self-Destructive voices to go away
Every time these voices come up, say "Hey, we don't do that anymore."
This might not eradicate them, but it will stop the spiral of negative thoughts
3. Find the root of your self-criticisms
A lot of the time, our self-criticism are not ours, but actually inherited from family members
Figure out where you inherited these thoughts from
4. Befriend the one critic who matters
There are going to be so many critics that come at you during your journey
The only critic that matters is the one in your head
Make peace with yourself as a critic, and find a balance so you aren't too hard on yourself
5. Don't accept every compliment and criticism
When you internalize all compliments, you then give the compliment giver the same authority to determine your worth from criticisms
There's no need to internalize all compliments from others. By not doing so, it will help you to not internalize all the negative criticism as well
Keep in mind:
"If you are asking someone more successful than you for feedback, and you argue with them, they will never give you honest feedback again."
This post is in relation to Alex Banayan's Third Door Mentor Sessions.
Topic for Wednesday 6/10: Dealing with Family Expectations